My Life’s Truth
The moment I finally understood, I was ready to tell my story.
I’ve always known I was meant to write my story.
I just didn’t know when I’d be ready to live it deeply enough to tell it honestly.
ReFraming Life wasn’t created from clarity, it was created from the ashes of heartbreak, loss, and quiet awakenings.
From the collapse of my first marriage.
From my father’s death.
From losing Adel, the moment that changed everything I thought I knew about love and about myself.
I didn’t write this story because I wanted to.
I wrote it because I couldn’t keep carrying it alone.
Today, I’m sharing the reflection behind that beginning, the moment my story truly started.
My Soulmate Named Adel drops December 28.
Thank you for walking this journey with me. For those of you who knew Adel, please invite them to join.
Kent
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My Life's Truth - Intro Letter to ReFraming Life
Learning to Speak the Truth Aloud
Healing isn’t about forgetting — it’s about finding the courage to speak.
There are moments when silence feels easier than honesty. We swallow our truths because we’re afraid of hurting others, of being misunderstood, of changing our lives in ways we can’t predict.
But silence doesn’t protect us.
It only keeps us from becoming who we truly are.
For years, I carried things quietly: questions I didn’t ask, feelings I didn’t voice, truths I didn’t want to admit, even to myself. I thought staying silent was strength. I thought it kept things together.
What I didn’t realize was that silence was breaking me far more than the truth ever could.
When Adel entered my life, something shifted. She didn’t demand my honesty, she simply made it impossible to keep hiding from myself. Her presence became a mirror, reflecting the truth I had been holding down for too long: I wasn’t living in alignment with who I really was.
Speaking that truth, first quietly, then aloud, became the beginning of my healing.
This story I’m sharing isn’t about forgetting what happened or pretending it didn’t shape me. It’s about naming it. Breathing it out. Letting it exist in the open rather than in the shadows.
Because healing doesn’t begin when the pain ends.
It begins when we finally speak.
And this is where my journey continues, one honest sentence at a time.
Kent
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The Making of My Voice
The World Met Adel
This past week, I introduced something deeply personal, a story I’ve carried quietly for years. My Soulmate Named Adel isn’t just a series. It’s a turning point in my life. And sharing even the first glimpse of her with you has meant more than I can express.
From the early reflection letters to the first quotes and teasers, this week marked the beginning of letting the world meet Adel, the woman whose presence reshaped the way I loved, healed, and understood myself.
Thank you for every message, every share, every moment you paused to read, listen, or reflect. This community is growing in the most meaningful way.
Thank you! Kent
Next Week: We Go Behind the Camera
Starting next week, I’m taking you deeper.
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Behind the scenes.
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Behind the words.
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Behind the man I was becoming.
We’ll explore where the story began, what it taught me, and why telling it now matters more than ever.
If you’d like to follow the story from the beginning, unfiltered and in its truest form, you can read the full reflections and early releases here: www.kentwaugh.substack.com
Thank you for being part of this journey. The best parts are still ahead.
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The Profile That Changed Everything
Reflection: Who Was Adel to Me?
She wasn’t a chapter. She was the mirror that revealed who I was becoming.
I used to believe that the people we love become chapters, something we can label, revisit, and eventually close. A defined place on our timeline.
But Adel never belonged to a chapter.
She was the mirror I didn’t know I needed.
She sensed parts of me I hadn’t learned to name yet. When we spoke, she listened past my words and into the spaces between them, the hesitations, the soft truth beneath the surface. And she never tried to change me. She simply stayed present enough for me to hear myself.
That’s what made her different.
She didn’t reflect who I had been.
She reflected who I was becoming.
Even after losing her, that reflection hasn’t faded. If anything, grief sharpened it. Some people don’t leave when they leave the room, they continue in how you speak, how you love, how gently you move through the world now.
People sometimes ask who she was to me. This is the closest I’ve come to explaining it:
She was the person who helped me become myself.
And that kind of presence doesn’t end.
It lives quietly inside you, shaping the person you’re still learning to be.
Explore More from ReFraming Life
If this reflection resonates with you, I invite you to explore the journey behind it.
A new story series, My Soulmate Named Adel, begins releasing on December 28.
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Letting Life Love You Back
Reflection Letter
Two weeks in, and I just want to say thank you.
Every message, every share, every quiet “this spoke to me” has meant more than you know.
ReFraming Life is still brand new, but this community is already growing, not because of algorithms, but because people are resonating with these truths about love, loss, and the courage it takes to stop hiding from ourselves.
Here’s what you may have missed this week:
New on Substack
• Reflection Letter #1 - What Happens When We Stop Hiding
• Behind the Scenes: The Moment My Story Began
• This Week’s Reflection - Moments That Changed Our Hearts Forever
Reels/Shorts
• “Real strength lives in vulnerability.”
• “Love doesn’t always heal us…”
• Series teaser clips as we move toward the December 28 release of the first three stories in My Soulmate Named Adel.
Coming Up Next Week
New reflection, more behind-the-scenes moments, and the first extended teaser dropping December 1.
Thank you for being here, and for helping me build a space where honesty feels like home.
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Why I'm Finally Ready to Tell My Story
For years, I carried stories I wasn’t ready to tell. Moments of love, loss, and renewal that shaped me, but also broke me open in ways I didn’t yet understand.
Every time I picked up a pen, my heart hesitated. Not because I didn’t want to write, but because I wasn’t ready to be seen, truly seen.
But healing has a way of changing that. Through grief, coaching, therapy, turning 60, and learning how to live again, I began to see that vulnerability isn’t weakness. It’s where life begins to make sense.
ReFraming Life is about finding meaning in the moments that nearly undo us. Learning how love, loss, and truth are all part of the same heartbeat.
Today, I’m finally ready to tell my story. Not as a memoir of what happened, but as a journey through what it meant.
If you’ve ever felt lost between who you were and who you’re becoming, maybe these stories will speak to you too.
Read the full ReFraming Life Manifesto on Substack and subscribe to join me as I share the first series, My Soulmate Named Adel.
“This isn’t just my story, it’s an invitation to look at your own life a little differently.”
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For those who like the written word.
ReFraming Life - A Manifesto
ReFraming Life is the art of turning experience into understanding, and love into perspective.
It begins with a choice to stop asking why life happens to us, and to start asking what life is trying to show us. It’s the courage to look again, to see pain as teacher, love as mirror, and change as the soul’s invitation to awaken.
To reframe life is to live as a witness rather than a victim, to find meaning in what once broke you, grace in what once scared you, and gratitude in what remains. It’s learning that we don’t heal by erasing the past, but by holding it in new light.
Love sits at the center of this work. Not sentimental love, but the kind that asks everything of us: to surrender control, to let go when holding on hurts, to stay open when we’d rather close, and to trust that what leaves still leaves something sacred behind.
Through every connection and every goodbye, we are being shaped, not into something new, but into who we truly are. ReFraming Life is the practice of remembering that truth, again and again.
It is the simple, sacred discipline of saying:
This, too, belongs. This, too, can teach me. This, too, is love.
Recent Reflections & Stories
About ReFraming Life
by Kent Waugh
A personal journey through love, loss, and the courage to begin again.
Welcome,
I’ve always known I was meant to write my story. I just didn’t know when I’d be ready to live it fully enough to tell it.
ReFraming Life is my passion project, born from the ashes and awakenings of love, loss, and renewal. It began as an attempt to make sense of heartbreak, first from the collapse of my first marriage, then my father’s passing, and later, the loss of my soulmate, Adel. Each time I tried to write, my soul wasn’t ready. The pain was too raw, the emotions too vast. So I tucked them away, waiting for the day my spirit could bear their weight.
Five years later, that day arrived.
Through coaching, therapy, heartbreak, healing, fitness, and turning 60, my soul reawakened. Then I met my second soulmate, Nia, and everything I’d locked away came pouring out. Through letters to her, I found my written voice. Through storytelling, I found myself.
Now, I’m finally writing and recording the stories that have shaped me, the moments of beauty and breaking that taught me how to make meaning out of experience. Each piece of ReFraming Life explores how we learn to love, lose, and begin again, not once, but many times over a lifetime.
I’m not a writer by trade; I’m a human being trying to make sense of what it means to live fully, love deeply, and keep growing, even after 60.
Join me as I share these stories, through words, voice, and reflection, in the hope that something within them helps you reframe a moment in your own life.